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John Kim: Stepping Up and Stepping Into Manhood

How to take charge of your life, stop acting like a boy, and live like a man.

March 14, 2019 | By Kyle Ingham | May contain affiliate links (What's this?)

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As I’ve said before, we don’t automatically become men when we reach a certain age. For the beginning of our lives, we act like children. And it’s only when we put in the work—when we are tested—does our character develop and we find our way to becoming grown men.

My guest today, John Kim, knows a thing or two making that transformation. Not only has he learned through his own life challenges, but he’s gone on to help thousands of other men navigate their journeys as well.

In this episode, John and I talk about the dangers of what John calls “exchanging truth for membership,” why you need to go on more “man dates” with your guy friends, and how to recognize negative patterns of how you show up in your relationships and career. We also discuss his new book called I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck: An Everyman’s Guide to a Meaningful Life.

Men respond, boys react.”

John Kim

John Kim is an author and licensed therapist who pioneered the online life coaching movement eight years ago, after going through a divorce which led to him to working with teens struggling with addiction in nonprofit.  There he discovered a passion to create a dialogue about men after learning that the common thread was no one had a dad—we live a fatherless nation. He started a blog called The Angry Therapist and quickly built a devoted following of fans who loved the frank and authentic insights that he freely shared on social media.

He pulled the curtain back and showed himself by practicing transparency and sharing his story, something therapists are taught NOT to do. Kim became known as an unconventional therapist, seeing clients at coffee shops, on hikes, in a CrossFit box—where real life happens. He quickly built a coaching team of his own and launched a sister company called JRNI, creating a new way to help people help people and change the way we change.

We spend most of our days in distorted thinking, either dwelling on the past or obsessed about the future. We’re basically everywhere except the here and now.”

Episode Highlights

  • The missteps and challenges guys face trying to become grown men
  • How John’s divorce forced him to confront his own shortcomings as a man
  • Reacting vs responding
  • Why “man dates” are so important
  • The dangers of exchanging truth for membership
  • Why peeing in the shower is a sign of a bigger problem in your relationship
  • Creative ways to “meditate” that don’t involve sitting still
  • How to take responsibility for your life and find your purpose
  • The importance of practicing self-curiosity

Resources Mentioned

  • I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck: An Everyman’s Guide to a Meaningful Life.

Connect With John

  • TheAngryTherapist.com
  • Instagram
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About Kyle Ingham

Kyle Ingham is the Founder and Editor of The Distilled Man, an online channel that helps everyday guys become well-rounded gentlemen. Kyle is a husband, new father, blogger, podcaster, and a recovering advertising executive. For the past 7 years, he's been helping men learn the essential skills and knowledge they need to become better, more confident men. Kyle enjoys Bourbon, burritos and the occasional pirate joke. He lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with his wife and son.
 
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