This is a guest post by Saskia Nelson of Saturday Night’s Alright.
So you’re dating online, but are you finding that you’re just not attracting the kind of women who rock your world?
You’ve already figured out how to get the best photos for your dating profiles right here from photographer Steve Mize, but how can you inject some of that cool personality of yours into your photos to ensure you’re attracting the kind of women who make you stop dead in your tracks?
Let’s just think about your photos for a minute. Everything about your photos is giving women clues: clues to who you are, what you look like and what kind of lifestyle you lead.
This starts with the quality of your image. I’m hoping you’ve followed Steve Mize’s great advice so you should have some excellent quality photos that are well lit and in focus. Straightaway this gives women the message that you are serious about finding someone online.
They are WAY more likely to get in touch with you if your images are well lit and in pin-sharp focus, not just because you’ll look better in the photo and stand out more but simply because they think you take online dating more seriously. They will think you care more. That counts for a lot with women as they don’t want to waste their time.
It’s really important, as with any element of online dating, to be as memorable and authentic as possible. With this approach you’ll ensure you stand out online for being you and start attracting more of your kind of women. But that’s often easier said than done. So how can you showcase your personality in your dating photos in such a way that will attract the right kind of women?
I’m going to share three simple tips to showcase your personality to ensure you ramp up your profile and start securing more dates with your kind of women.
1. Express yourself
To attract more of the kind of women you love and to help make your online dating profile stand out for all the right reasons, it’s worth taking a bit of time out to figure out who you are, what makes you, you. What is your USP (unique selling proposition)? Think of it as a mini self-branding exercise.
Take 5 to 10 minutes to think about the answers to the following questions:
When are you at your happiest?
What 3 adjectives would you use to describe your personality?
What 3 adjectives would you use to describe your personal style?
Who are your favorite style icons?
What kind of clothes do you enjoy wearing most?
What 6 things couldn’t you live without?
From this exercise, you should be able to start to identify some clothes, accessories and the kind of vibe to go for that that will help you express your personality in your photos. If the vibe you’re trying to create is stylish, well-groomed man-about-town, then make sure your clothes and accessories are all aligned with the message you’re aiming to give. If you have some style icons, show your photographer some images of them that you like, so they can start to build an idea of the kind of look you’re after.
2. Tell your story
Another thing to think about to make your photos interesting and memorable, is the story you want to tell women who see your photos.
Do you want them to think, here is someone who isn’t afraid to stand out from the crowd? Or to think, finally, here is someone who breaks the mold? Or here is someone who is comfortable in his skin? Do you want to show them that you’re bold, playful or a bit of a rebel?
Think about how you want the women to feel and what you want them to think when they see your photos. How can your photos help you tell your story?
You could grab something to carry from the list of things you can’t live without. You could head somewhere you love. If you’re happiest in the city, head to the city streets to have your photos taken. Or if you’re more relaxed drinking coffee by the canal or running in the park, then head to those places for your photo shoot.
Finally, you could do something you love in your photos, which will showcase you looking relaxed, happy and natural since you’ll be engaged in something you enjoy. It could be riding your fixed gear bike, heading out for a run, reading the paper in your favorite café. Think about where you feel most ‘you’ and then head there with your photographer.
3. Embrace your quirkiness
The thing about online dating is that everyone comes across as the same. The same kind of photos, the same kind of interests and wanting the same kind of women. If you can, use your photos to stand out from the crowd then they will be working hard for you.
What makes you different?
Do you have a gap in your teeth, a cool bushy beard, a tattoo on your arm/hand? Perhaps you always wear the same leather jacket? Let your photographer know so that he or she can think about how they can show off your quirks in a really cool, interesting way. Your quirks can be a really cool ice-breaker too, giving women something easy to ask you about in a message.
If you take just 20 minutes out of your day before your dating photo shoot to think about how you might bring out your personality in your dating photos—it could be as simple as wearing your signature leather jacket, sitting in your favorite café, holding that camera you always have on you, having a backdrop that fits your personality—you’ll find your dating photos will stand out from the crowd and work much harder for you, attracting the kind of women who make your stomach flip. And lots more of them….
Saskia Nelson is the talent behind the award-winning and internationally acclaimed Saturday Night’s Alright, the UK’s coolest dating photography business, specializing in creating dating photos that kick ass and win dates for 100s of single people.
She also puts her extensive online dating experiences to good use by sharing her experiences and wisdom on her blog and by organizing dating workshops that focus on helping people create irresistible dating profiles.